If you are in the middle of a failed marriage you might be thinking about filing for a divorce. This can be a hard step to take, but once you do take the step you need to make sure that you are doing everything that you can to ensure that the best outcome for everyone involved. Here are some important things that you should do when you file for divorce.
1. Stick With The Facts
When you first meet with the attorney you might be tempted to tell the attorney the whole story of your marriage. You may want to explain every grievance against you, some of the most intense fights, or things that you don't like about your spouse. The lawyer doesn't need to hear any of this. Instead all they need are the facts of the marriage. The reasons for your divorce are yours alone, and in many cases are not relevant to the divorce. Instead, you should just give the facts of the marriage and the estate. You should disclose if you or your spouse cheated, how much you have in assets, what you think is fair for custody, any documented cases of abuse and so forth.
2. Don't Start A New Relationship
Since you have probably been in an unhappy marriage for a good amount of time you might be tempted to start a new relationship. You should know that this is never a good idea and you should hold off on dating until the divorce is final. If one of the spouses has had an affair or is unfaithful in the marriage it can hurt their chances with custody and even the division of the estate. For this reason, you should protect your finances and your custody and wait to enter the dating scene. This includes online dating profiles.
3. Be Extra Careful With Money
Many people walk away from their divorce in a worse financial position than they were before the marriage. You now have to split what you made before in half in some cases. This means that if you were used to living off of $5000 together each month, you now have more around $2500 for living expenses each month. Of course, many people start working more after the divorce and over time your finances will recover, but until then, you need to be very careful with your money. You will have legal fees to pay, as well starting your new life. So be very careful with your money. This is not the time to spend a lot of money.
By doing these things you can better be prepared for the divorce. Talk with a family law attorney for more advice.